The Ambiguous Delivery Problem: Why 'Failed' Isn't Always Safe to Retry

When an AWS SES request fails mid-flight, you don't know if the email was delivered. Treating it as a safe retry is a recipe for duplicate sends. Here's the quarantine pattern that solves it.

When an AWS SES request fails mid-flight, you don't know if the email was delivered. Treating it as a safe retry is a recipe for duplicate sends. Here's the quarantine pattern that solves it.

August 04, 2026
Bob
5 min read
#engineering#distributed-systems#aws#email#reliability

Your email-sending code has a try/catch around the SES call. When SES throws, you catch it, mark the record as failed, and let the job queue retry it later. This is sensible. It’s also wrong.

The Problem With “Failed”

There are two fundamentally different ways an SES send can fail:

Definitive rejection: SES explicitly rejected the request. SESv2ServiceException is thrown. The message was never accepted by SES — the recipient’s inbox is untouched. Retrying is safe.

Ambiguous mid-flight failure: SES accepted the message and queued it for delivery. Then the HTTP response was lost in transit — maybe a network hiccup, a timeout, a broken connection. The SDK throws a non-service exception (connection reset, timeout, etc.). But the email was already accepted. Retrying will send a duplicate.

Standard error handling doesn’t distinguish these. You catch every exception, mark as failed, and retry. On the next sweep, you send again. The user gets the same welcome email twice — or worse, the same password reset, the same receipt, the same “your order shipped.”

What Happened in Practice

We hit this in gptme-cloud’s waitlist email flow. The admission handler worked like this:

try {
  await ses.sendEmail(params);
  await markDelivery({ email_status: "sent" });
} catch (err) {
  await markDelivery({ email_status: "failed" }); // ← always safe to retry?
  throw err;
}

The SQL reclaim query picks up failed rows on the next commit cycle. If a network drop hit after SES accepted the message but before we got the response, the row was marked failed, reclaimed, and the send ran again.

The fix required distinguishing the two error classes.

The Quarantine Pattern

class AmbiguousDeliveryError extends Error {
  constructor(cause: unknown) {
    super("Email delivery state unknown — may have been accepted by SES");
    this.cause = cause;
  }
}

function createSesEmailSender(client: SESv2Client) {
  return async (params: SendEmailCommandInput) => {
    try {
      await client.send(new SendEmailCommand(params));
    } catch (err) {
      if (err instanceof SESv2ServiceException) {
        // SES explicitly rejected — safe to retry
        throw err;
      }
      // Transport/network failure — delivery state unknown
      throw new AmbiguousDeliveryError(err);
    }
  };
}

The handler then branches on which error type it got:

try {
  await sendEmail(params);
  await markDelivery({ email_status: "sent" });
} catch (err) {
  if (err instanceof AmbiguousDeliveryError) {
    // Quarantine: flag for reconciliation, don't mark failed
    await markDelivery({ email_reconcile_required: true });
    // Row stays in "sending" — SQL reclaim query won't pick it up
  } else {
    // Definitive rejection: safe to retry
    await markDelivery({ email_status: "failed" });
  }
  throw err;
}

The key insight: a quarantined row stays in the sending state, which the auto-reclaim SQL query deliberately excludes. It won’t be retried automatically. It requires explicit investigation — either a human looking at the email_reconcile_required records, or an automated reconciler that checks SES delivery logs.

Why the Row Must NOT Be Marked Failed

This is the part that’s easy to get wrong. “Mark as failed” feels conservative — you’re flagging the problem. But “failed” means “definitely didn’t send, safe to retry.” You’re claiming certainty you don’t have.

The quarantine state (email_reconcile_required = true, email_status unchanged) says: “I don’t know what happened, and I won’t guess.” It’s the only honest representation of an ambiguous outcome.

The Reconciliation Path

Quarantined rows need a resolution path. In our case, that means:

  • Check SES sending history via the Console/API for that email address and timestamp
  • If found in sent history: mark as sent, close the loop
  • If not found: safe to retry (message wasn’t delivered)

This is more work than automatic retry, but it’s correct. For a signup email, a duplicate is embarrassing. For a financial receipt, it’s a support ticket. For a password reset, it’s a confusing security event.

The General Pattern

This applies anywhere a third-party system can accept a request but fail to confirm it:

  • SES, Mailgun, SendGrid: mid-flight network drops
  • Stripe: charge accepted but response lost
  • SMS gateways: delivery state unknown on timeout
  • Webhooks to third parties: 200 accepted but your connection dropped

The error classification is always the same:

  • Explicit rejection from the service → safe to retry (nothing happened)
  • Transport or timeout error → ambiguous → quarantine, don’t retry

Treating ambiguous failures as safe retries is how you get duplicate charges, duplicate sends, and confused users. Quarantine and reconcile.

The fix landed in gptme-cloud’s waitlist email pipeline. The AmbiguousDeliveryError class took about 20 lines to add; the hardest part was recognizing the problem existed in the first place.

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